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October 6, 2025, Filed Under: General

Finding Your Footing: Coping with Uncertainty as an International Student

Uncertainty is one of the most common and most difficult experiences international students face when studying in the U.S. It shows up in big ways, such as “Will my visa be approved? What happens after graduation?” and in small, daily moments, “Why didn’t my professor reply? Did I say the wrong thing?”

As a therapist who works closely with international students, I want to share both the psychology behind why uncertainty feels so overwhelming and some concrete strategies to help you navigate with more confidence and ease. 

Why Uncertainty Feels So Hard 

Our brains are wired to prefer predictability. When something feels ambiguous, the brain interprets it as a potential threat and activates the body’s stress response, known as the “fight, flight, or freeze” response. Add to that the unique challenge of cultural adjustments: new norms, unfamiliar systems, and being far from familiar support networks. For international students, this means uncertainty can feel amplified, leading to heightened anxiety, loneliness, or self-doubt. 

The good news? Your brain can also learn how to tolerate uncertainty. Think of it as a muscle that you can strengthen with practice. 

Strategies for Coping with What You Can’t Control 

  1. Grounding and Mindfulness:
    Simple tools like the “5-4-3-2-1″ technique (naming five things you see, four things you feel, three things you hear, two things you smell, and one thing you taste)  
  2. Box Breathing:
    A practice of box breathing (inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4) calms the nervous system. These practices remind your body that you are safe, even when your mind feels uncertain. 
  3. Cognitive Reframing:
    When a stressful thought arises, pause and ask: “Is there another way to see this?” For example, instead of “My professor ignored me,” you might reframe it as “They are probably busy; I can follow up politely.”  Reframing helps shift from rigid, anxious thinking to flexible, compassionate self-talk. 
  4. Creating a Coping Toolkit:
    List your top three go-to strategies, maybe journaling, taking a walk outdoors, or calling a friend from home. Keep these handy, so when stress spikes, you already know what helps you deal with it. 

Navigating Social Ambiguity 

Cultural differences in communication often create uncertainty: Was that sarcasm? Did I misunderstand? One useful strategy is to practice checking assumptions. You might say “I’m new to this, so I may have misunderstood. Could you explain?” This not only clarifies the situation but also builds confidence in advocating for yourself. Remember, social uncertainty is common, and asking for clarification is a sign of strength, not weakness. 

Reframing Uncertainty as Growth 

Many students find that their most meaningful growth happened during uncertain times, such as moving abroad, starting graduate school, or adapting to a new culture. Try reflecting: “What past uncertainties led me to where I am today?” By viewing uncertainty as a teacher rather than a threat, you open space for resilience and identity development. 

One exercise you could try out is to imagine uncertainty as a landscape. Is it a foggy forest, a winding road, or an open ocean? Now ask yourself what tools or guides would help you move through it? This imagery can help you see uncertainty not as endless, but as a journey with resources along the way. 

Takeaway 

As an international student, you are already a living proof of courage, adaptability, and strength. The uncertainties you face, whether about academics, friendships, or the future, are real, but they don’t define you. With tools to manage stress, skills to navigate relationships, and a mindset that sees uncertainty as an opportunity, you can find your footing in the U.S. and beyond. 

The next time uncertainty knocks, remember it’s not here to stop you. It’s here to help you grow!  

Join us this semester for any of the upcoming uncertainty workshops. We meet for a wellness lunch every second Friday of the month in the Student Services Building (SSB 3.406). 

Upcoming Dates  

Friday, Oct.10 at 12-1 p.m. 

Friday, Nov. 14 at 12-1 p.m. 

Friday, Dec. 4 at 12-1 p.m. 

I am looking forward to seeing you all! 

 

This blog post was contributed by Dr. Arna Erega, director of clinical training, counselor education program, and assistant professor of practice in the Department of Educational Psychology.  

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